Emotional healing is an idea whose time has come. I believe that it comes none too soon as we move into the instability of our future. Instability is always a reality when you stop and think about it. The “future” is not predictable and there is much mystery to life.

We get into trouble when we start to buy into the idea that we can control everything and start wanting guarantees about what tomorrow holds. As a very young child, I started out in life feeling insecure and not wanted. It had a lot to do with my family position, gender and even religion.

The bottom line is, as a child, I was emotionally immature and had not developed much logic and I was physically smaller than the adults, of course. This is a set up for feeling fearful and setting off the survival instinct in our brains. Between adults who were not aware of the damaging effects of impatient words and the dreadful feelings of rejection, I eventually decided to repress my feelings and emotions.

Of course the adults around me encouraged this, as they did not want to deal with emotion either. The problem is, emotional wounds will hide out in your body until they are released. Emotions are not “bad” or “good”. They are just energy with a given charge or frequency.

The frequency will either match love or fear – simple as that. Love heals while fear steals. We all intuitively know that love feels desirable and fear does not. As long as I repressed my anger, grief, sadness and other pain, they built up in my nervous system and they started to constrict my field of vision for my life as well as to impact my physical heart. It can affect different people in different ways.

Memory is literally stored in your body at the cellular level. In my early twenties, I started to show symptoms and signs of a heart valve problem. However, once I realized that the emotional pain was literally capable of killing me, I began the journey of emotional healing. Not only has my vision expanded for my life, but also my heart is completely healthy. The pain of a “broken heart” can literally translate to heart “dis-ease”. Here are some tips to consider:

1. From an anatomy standpoint, you have two aspects to your brain (left hemisphere and right hemisphere)– logic and intuition. Mental processes are important but so are emotional processes. You need both to be healthy and whole

2. Fearing feelings and emotion are a conditioned and learned process that typically begins in childhood based in the mind of a child. Most adults are overgrown children who never healed their childhood perceptions and they pass on the fear of dealing with them

3. Healthy feelings and emotions are not explosive. Many people look over-emotional and out of control as usually they are reactively responding to unresolved pain that is backed up in the nervous system over the years

I have personally discovered that I could relearn how to manage my emotions in a healthy manner. I used to be TERRIFIED of feelings of rejection, sadness or virtually any other negative emotion – except anger, I was great at blowing up.

Once I learned how to change my attitude about emotions I found the courage and learned how to release the energy in ways that were quite simple and without drama. It’s not about stirring up emotion and just talking about the past. Healing comes from releasing the painful energy of emotion from your cellular memory and consciously “wiring” yourself with healthy thoughts, feelings and emotions. This will lead to lasting change. As I’ve done this, even my body is more flexible as well as my attitude about self and others.

Current, reel-time emotion is in the moment and passes in 60-90seconds and does not feel life threatening. Feelings and emotions make life rich, colorful and is the door to soul-felt creativity.

Learning to feel again and heal the old emotional blockages has been the single most empowering step I’ve ever taken in creating and living a life I can love. You can do the same and it’s not as difficult as you may think! Emotional healing is the missing link to living a life well lived.

Tags: Confidence, Emotional Healing, Emotional Pain, Empowerment, Happiness, Self-Esteem

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