Posts Tagged ‘Inner Peace’
Wednesday, March 10th, 2010
 Topics of empowerment always grab my attention because I know that feeling victimized and out of control is no way to live.
In fact, since stress is such a killer, if we are chronically overwhelmed and ill at ease, we will not live a long life and at best, certainly if we do our life will not be of a high quality.
So, since I highly value peace of mind and good health, I made it my business to get to the root of my dis-ease. I started to notice that I had this companion hanging around my life that did not support me, that put me down and seemed to cause me to miss opportunities that could have created more abundance and adventure in my life.
It seemed to follow me wherever I went, and though it felt familiar, it did not seem to have my best interest at heart. Why would you ask, did I allow such a companion to hang out with me? Good question. As soon as I started to realize this, I began to make it my business to cut the ties and figure out how to get rid of it.
Who or what was this companion? It is fear. We can get so attached to fear that it becomes our familiar way of traveling through life. Fear, or Fictitious Evidence Creating Reality, it is the story that we wire into our brains that life is unsafe, full of suffering and lack and that is just “the way it is”.
Notice I say “fictitious”; we are making it all up.
Can life have physical threat and dangers? Of course, events happen. But this is not the general rule or else you would probably not be alive to read these words. I assume you are more than 5 years old.
The average man or woman lives around 75 years or so. How is it that we use up those years suffering and afraid to get out of our box? The main reason is that we do not know how our brain and minds work, and we take in the outdated beliefs of those who arrived here before us and we think that these beliefs are the Truth of the entire Universe.
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Tags: Confidence, Empowerment, Inner Peace, Self-Esteem
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Thursday, December 3rd, 2009
 Confidence and self-esteem if linked to the “outer world” will certainly get you sucked into the marketing traps of the holiday season. It’s the old “looking for love in all the wrong places” revisited – again and again.
If your sense of self-worth is tied to externals such as glitzy new toys, clothes or whatever the media says is the “new look” – you will be a sitting duck for those “Black Friday” type bait and switch deals.
I find that the clearer I get about my self as a spiritual being living and experiencing “human”, the less concerned I’m am about keeping up with the latest greatest item, or chasing after the thing that will finally “make me happy”.
Happiness is relative, and it is related to inner peace. If your happiness is in passing holiday seasons or anything else that is constantly changing in appearance, you are doomed to melancholy as the only thing that is certain is – well, change!
While I enjoy new “toys” and I like fashion, and the December holidays can be really fun, the key is to not get attached to these things. By attached I mean, enjoy them, but hold on loosely, and learn to separate your sense of identity from external advertising.
 For example today I saw this message about confidence on my 16-year-old daughter’s magazine: “Total Confidence: Great ABS Butt and Legs by New Year’s” – Oh, really now? Or how about this: “All Kinds of Wonderful” with happy faces buying all of the “wonderful stuff”. Hopefully the bill will be paid by the end of the month or else those happy faces are going to go south.
In the words of Rumi:
“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.”
You will probably feel better and happier if you make the time to rest, and enjoy the season. Otherwise, putting too much pressure on yourself and tying your self-esteem to what you give or receive in terms of material items, or to false external promises, will create more “things to do” and there is no joy in that!
Healthy confidence will help you to “just say no” to things that use you up instead of bringing you joy. Hope you “in joy” the season!
Tags: Confidence, Happiness, Inner Peace, Self-Esteem
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Tuesday, December 1st, 2009
 The Law of Attraction is working whether you believe it or not. It’s like gravity; it works regardless of your attention to it. The issue is, are you attracting what you want? Or are you stuck on focusing on the circumstances in your life that you want to “get rid of”.
When you want to get rid of something you are giving your focus of energy to it. It works better if you take your attention away from dwelling on the circumstances that you rather not live with and instead, envision – go within and vision – what it is you want and get really clear about that.
“People are always blaming their circumstances for what they are. I don’t believe in circumstances. The people who get on in this world are the people who get up and look for the circumstances they want, and if they can’t find them, make them” ~George Bernard Shaw
I knew this intellectually a long time before I started putting it to practice. The Law of Attraction sounded like a great idea, but what I did not realize is the importance of adding FEELING to the mental pictures. Our minds think in pictures and emotion causes us to take action.
If you do not add feelings to the mix, you are only “in your head” and your heart is not engaged so you will not believe it. Belief involves feelings and thought. The product of combining these two elements will be belief which will cause your subconscious mind to zero in on things that you may not normally take notice of.
You are also wiring your brain to gear your body up to take action. The stronger the emotion, the stronger the brain connections wire together to make it happen. So the abbreviated process is as follows:
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Tags: Empowerment, Inner Peace, Law of Attraction, Self-Esteem, Visualization
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Friday, November 20th, 2009
 Happiness is subjective and in essence is tied to inner peace. When I read some spiritual literature, I’ve come across the idea that to have desire is somehow a source of inner pain or is something to be avoided. I’ve even met people who believe that it is spiritual to have “no desire”.
Stop and think about it.
If I want to have no desire, isn’t that a desire? Another way of looking at it is, “I desire to have no desire”. Well, THAT IS a desire! I think to try to free your self of desire will only lead to frustration.
What’s the point of the human experience if we are to ignore our five senses? May as well be dead, actually, if you cannot feel or experience anything anyway. I prefer to make the distinction between desire and lust, perhaps, meaning that lust is more about being attached to something and feeling that you cannot have peace or be whole without it.
For example, I have goals, which help to keep me challenged and engaged in life. However, if things don’t turn out as planned, when I am living in the present moment and have a sense of surrender and trust that the universe is running based on principle, I can give room to the perception that perhaps I’m not seeing the “big picture”.
Perhaps my energy is not matching what I want to attract into my life at this time. Perhaps, my inner guidance knows something that my human senses are not appreciating. Perhaps, there is something bigger and better down the road, as long as I don’t allow myself to become impatient or frustrated in this moment.
I don’t believe it’s possible to have no desire and the pursuit of happiness this way will only lead to more unhappiness.
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Tags: Ego, Empowerment, Happiness, Inner Peace, Personal Power
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Saturday, October 31st, 2009
 Inner peace is just that – peace inside. So why do we all to often go searching for it in external “things” and relationships? I fell into this trap for many years and I have finally come to experience and see that this is not the path to peace.
It took a while, and now I realize that the only thing that I can absolutely count on is – change. Even as you live life with awareness of Spirit, flexibility is central to a life of faith. Things don’t always go as planned and some experiences take time to understand the good on the other side of the seeming abyss.
Today another Halloween is passing. I used to feel sad, even while I was in the moment of experiencing fun with my children when they were much younger on this day. I dreaded that my children would “one day” be too old to go trick or treating with me – that they would rather be with their friends instead of me. It was a habit I had of focusing on lack instead of fully enjoying the present moment. This of course, blocked my full enjoyment in those now moments.
Fortunately, I eventually figured this out. The energy that we feel in the now moment is creating our future. This used to keep me in a perpetual state of dis-satisfaction as I could not really feel happiness to the extent that I could have. I could not really enjoy the pleasure of funny faces, costumes and laughter as I felt the melancholy feelings that “one day” they would leave.
Well, one day has arrived. My daughter drove off to go out with her friends, no déjà vu for her. My son even choose to skip going to the Northwestern Football game that he and my husband have season tickets for to be with his friends for Halloween. And me? – I’m here writing this blog post!
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Tags: Empowerment, Happiness, Inner Peace, Law of Attraction, Personal Growth
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Topics of empowerment always grab my attention because I know that feeling victimized and out of control is no way to live.
