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Emotional Healing: Casting Off the Shackles of Shame

Saturday, January 16th, 2010

Emotional healing is an idea whose time has come. It is often ignored and swept under a rug, the old “elephant in the room” that people pretend that they don’t see. This is truly unfortunate as emotions are the fuel that runs the engine of our life.

Our intellect, logic and actions cannot rise above the quality of our perceptions, and emotions have more impact on our perception than what we think. This is also one reason why change can be so difficult for people.

We often think we want to change but because of our fear of feeling “bad” emotions, when uncomfortable feelings show up, we distract ourselves with all manner of drama, from workaholism to, well, all manner of additions and procrastination. And it’s not just our self-esteem and confidence on the table.

85% of all disease is stress-related, and stress is an emotional disease. Note the word “dis-ease”, or not at ease. The electrical energy of emotion is 60 times greater than thought and the magnetic energy is 5,000 times greater that thought.

In other words, when you feel good, you are a powerful attractor of that which resonates with the vibration of that feeling and when you feel “bad” you are going be on the “vibe” of these kinds of experiences. Science shows we live in a vibratory universe and like attracts like.

I use to be terrified of feeling pain, and there is a reason for this that often links back to early childhood, though not always. The long/short of it is, I discovered that once I stopped seeing feelings as something to be avoided, I was able to stop judging them and not dealing with my life.

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Self-Esteem: Does the Tiger Really Have Healthy Self-Esteem?

Saturday, December 19th, 2009

Self-Esteem, ConfidenceWhen I use the word self-esteem, I am referring to self-image and the way that one feels about their own worth and value. I am of the firm belief that healthy self-esteem matters and is not the same as arrogance or narcissism.

I believe arrogance is a telltale sign of insecurity. It is the ego’s way to covering up and hiding inner fear of inadequacy. One may as well have a neon sign on their forehead that says “I am hiding my pain and shame” when they mistreat others in a rude and condescending fashion.

What I have found to be true within my own life is that the more I come to love and accept myself, the less judgmental and more compassionate that I become with others. What we do is not the same as who we are.

When we behave in a way that is harmful to others, of course there should be a penalty (even if the law doesn’t apply the penalty, karma takes its toll). It’s a matter of reaping and sowing. I am not of the school that karma is “punishment”.

It is really about getting back what you put out. So, when we plant seeds of love, we will reap a harvest of love – eventually. Now realize that some of what we reap is not obvious in its origin.

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Why Emotional Healing Improved My Vision and Health

Monday, November 30th, 2009

Emotional HealingEmotional healing is an idea whose time has come. I believe that it comes none too soon as we move into the instability of our future. Instability is always a reality when you stop and think about it. The “future” is not predictable and there is much mystery to life.

We get into trouble when we start to buy into the idea that we can control everything and start wanting guarantees about what tomorrow holds. As a very young child, I started out in life feeling insecure and not wanted. It had a lot to do with my family position, gender and even religion.

The bottom line is, as a child, I was emotionally immature and had not developed much logic and I was physically smaller than the adults, of course. This is a set up for feeling fearful and setting off the survival instinct in our brains. Between adults who were not aware of the damaging effects of impatient words and the dreadful feelings of rejection, I eventually decided to repress my feelings and emotions.

Of course the adults around me encouraged this, as they did not want to deal with emotion either. The problem is, emotional wounds will hide out in your body until they are released. Emotions are not “bad” or “good”. They are just energy with a given charge or frequency.

The frequency will either match love or fear – simple as that. Love heals while fear steals. We all intuitively know that love feels desirable and fear does not. As long as I repressed my anger, grief, sadness and other pain, they built up in my nervous system and they started to constrict my field of vision for my life as well as to impact my physical heart. It can affect different people in different ways.

Memory is literally stored in your body at the cellular level. In my early twenties, I started to show symptoms and signs of a heart valve problem. However, once I realized that the emotional pain was literally capable of killing me, I began the journey of emotional healing. Not only has my vision expanded for my life, but also my heart is completely healthy. The pain of a “broken heart” can literally translate to heart “dis-ease”. Here are some tips to consider:

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Writing a Book? – Why The Journey Can Be Empowering

Tuesday, November 10th, 2009

empowerment, confidenceIt feels empowering to complete a project that requires expansion into new territories. Anything that gets you out of your comfort zone can wake you up to a whole new world.

I am in the process now of finishing up the publication process of my first book. I’ve always known since childhood that I would someday become an “official” author by having books published and even then my intention was that I would have something of importance to connect with my readers on, at a meaningful, empowering level.

I used to pretend that I had books published by making up fiction stories in spiral bound little notebooks. Little did I realize as a young child, that when it comes to writing on topics that empower, it is very common to have to have had life experiences that required me to personally experience the difference between feeling confident and empowered or feeling like a victim, or having a low sense of self-esteem.

As I look back now at my journey of coming through the fires of life and overcoming the challenges, I now see why there can be a time and season for everything under the sun. I realize that it is not what happens to one in life that determines the outcome of their story, but how one responds to life’s challenges that makes the difference.

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