Self-image and confidence is not to be taken lightly. You cannot really rise above, or at least stay above your self-image. In fact, your brain acts as a cybernetic mechanism, which is a fancy way of saying “thermostat”. Whatever is your set point tends to be your self-fulfilling prophecy.
If you have a low self-image, you tend to struggle more with confidence and fear of rejection. You are less likely to take risks, and I certainly can say that dealing with change will be frightening if you are afraid of going into the unknown.
Now I hear people say often, “a part of me feels like…” I say it myself at times. What most people do not realize is that these “parts” of us can run your life. If you believe the real you is this “part” or that you are your thoughts and memories, you will be a set up for the stories and dramas that you tell yourself are “just the way life is”.
Actually, our life experiences are a reflection of the way that we see ourselves.
“We don’t see things as they are; we see them as we are” ~Anais Nin
There’s science for this. You see there is no “out there”. What we see and how we see it has more to do with our perception. We are conditioned to believe that what we do is WHO we are. Actually your “part” that is feeling a certain way has more to do with the way that you wired your brain to think of yourself.
Confidence is not about acting a certain way; it is about being authentic. It is the confidence to be self-actualized and to stop trying to be another copycat of some media image that you’ve been manipulated into seeking.
Empowerment is a key to developing the confidence to live a life that is fulfilling and happy. The way that we assemble our memory is based on our perception.
