Self-esteem, or your sense of self-worth, will affect your experience of life on every level.  It is fundamental in forming your level of what you expect to receive in life in every area of your life, from relationships, to finances.  It is not to be taken lightly.  One way that we get hooked into feeling of low self-esteem is when we associate what we DO with who we ARE.

What we do, the actions that we take, the “mistakes” that we make or the roles that we play strictly speaking does not define who you are at your core, your essential nature.  This is very, very important for when you define your self-esteem by your roles, or your degrees, how much money you have or your outer appearance, you are subject to so much fluctuation and fluidity that inner peace will be virtually impossible.

In general, up until now, very few people were aware that what we think is not the same as who we are.  These people, whose writings you can find in historical records, were aware that “as a man/woman thinks in his/her heart, so is he/she”.  Heart referred to the feeling nature, for you do not really believe something unless you feel it in your body.

However, with the advent of the Internet, new findings in neuroscience, and a rise in conscious awareness, there are increasing signs that the tide is turning.  With so much fear and chaos going on, those who refuse to give up and instead open their minds to change, are now more readily than ever able to do so.  Once you can begin to grasp the concept that YOU ARE NOT YOUR THOUGHTS, and that your intrinsic value exceeds your human experiences, you can begin to release the old habitual thinking patterns that hold you back.

Also, when you fall down, you are much more likely to get up and dust your knees off when you realize that falling down is a part of life, a part of the learning curve.  Babies fall when they are learning to walk; children fall when they are learning to ride their bikes.  The difference is, these sorts of activities are not typically associated with shame.

Your sense of self is wired into your brain at an early age and a large determinant of your level of self-esteem is determined by how others reacted to you, and even more importantly, what you “believed in your heart” regarding your experiences.  A thought, which is electromagnetic energy, creates an electrical/chemical response in the brain cells, and a cascading process that ultimately releases hormones and creates feelings in your body.

This emotionalized thought wires into your brain and body.  This is how the story of “who you think you are” forms physiologically. When you allow these particular stories to repeat over and over, they will start to repeat outside of your awareness.  It’s like when you first ride a bike you are aware of your thoughts and how you feel while learning.

After you’ve done it often enough, your body takes over and remembers without you having to think about it.  This is similar to how we form our thought habits about ourselves.  Remember though, that it is not what happens to you that will determine the outcome of your life, but HOW you respond to the situation will determine if you stay down, or get up and take your life in a different direction.  It all begins with conscious choice, thought – for only you have “response-ability” for raising your own self-esteem.

There are now tools and resources to help you to empower yourself far easier than it was only a few years ago.  It is a matter of learning how to re-wire your mind and “train your brain”, as well as understanding and applying Universal principles of self-love and compassion.

Here is a video that is very interesting about now famous people who were told they could not amount to much.  They got up, so their naysayers had to shut up, for their decision to ignore the rejection of others and their actions speak louder than words!

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