When I use the word self-esteem, I am referring to self-image and the way that one feels about their own worth and value. I am of the firm belief that healthy self-esteem matters and is not the same as arrogance or narcissism.
I believe arrogance is a telltale sign of insecurity. It is the ego’s way to covering up and hiding inner fear of inadequacy. One may as well have a neon sign on their forehead that says “I am hiding my pain and shame” when they mistreat others in a rude and condescending fashion.
What I have found to be true within my own life is that the more I come to love and accept myself, the less judgmental and more compassionate that I become with others. What we do is not the same as who we are.
When we behave in a way that is harmful to others, of course there should be a penalty (even if the law doesn’t apply the penalty, karma takes its toll). It’s a matter of reaping and sowing. I am not of the school that karma is “punishment”.
It is really about getting back what you put out. So, when we plant seeds of love, we will reap a harvest of love – eventually. Now realize that some of what we reap is not obvious in its origin.
Some people can fake looking good, but their motive for seed planting is what the field of energy is processing. What I mean is, if we pretend we have good self-esteem, or if we think that acting macho is good self-esteem, we may not receive the harvest of inner peace and happiness that we hope for.
Our energy is always perfectly matched and balanced by an Intelligent Universe that runs on order. It does not play dice and is not random. This does NOT mean it is always predictable by the mental human intellect, but from a higher, transcendent view, everything is working in order.
There is an article written on Tiger Woods in the Examiner, San Francisco on December 11, 2009 (click here) regarding his present self-inflicted drama (drama is generally self-inflicted). I agree in essence with the writer who says that she does not see Tiger’s self-esteem as healthy just because he is a wealthy, great golfer. As I said earlier, what you do, is not who you ARE. What he did is an experience. Our behavior often reflects the state of our ego. I still look beyond his behavior and see that at his core, he still has a light that shines brightly. He just needs to heal the emotional blockages.
Apparently, he has enough inner ego insecurity that he went about exhibiting behavior and having relationships that were a far cry from honorable. In fact, they look to me like a reflection of someone who devalues himself and his body. What he did was outright self-destructive to his life. Herein lies the danger of not healing emotional pain or inner insecurity and shame.
We are taught to deny and hide and ultimately, it all comes out explosively and we wonder what hit us. When you proactively take the time to heal the inner emotional wounds, by working at the level of ENERGY, then you can remove those “cataracts of the soul” that block your inner light and cover your souls’ loving power.
True self-esteem is about living from the True Self, instead of the ego sense of false self. It does not come from outer accomplishments and title. No, self-esteem is an inside job. What are your thoughts?
Tags: Confidence, Ego, Emotional Healing, Emotional Pain, Empowerment, Self-Esteem
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