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Friday, March 12th, 2010
 Confidence is required to talk publicly about money, especially when you come from a place of abundance. Since there is so much scarcity thinking around money, buttons are highly likely to be pushed.
I don’t know what is the more sensitive subject matter, money, religion or politics. Have you ever wondered why people get upset about money when they spend a full one-third (at least) of their life pursuing it?
Also, while I often hear people make negative assumptions about people with money, people who they never met and do not know, while at the same time putting celebrities on a pedestal. If money is so bad, why do we chase after it and all too often feel inferior to those with it?
What an incongruent disconnect. Even those who profess that it is the root of all evil will not be found getting rid of theirs. No, quite the contrary. They can be very stingy, actually. This is why most people struggle with money all of their lives. On the one had they want it, and on the other they either feel it is bad, or they themselves are not worthy.
Money is neutral.
It is whatever we send it out into the world to accomplish. It can be used for good or destruction. And if you want to have business success, you had better get clear about the role you want to play with money.
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Friday, March 5th, 2010
 While empowerment starts as an idea in mind, it doesn’t make any difference until we start taking the action to make it happen. Having a lot of good ideas or intentions is nice, but at the end of the day, results matter.
Time is something that I’ve noticed people talk about frequently. I often hear “I don’t have enough time”, “I’m sooooo busy”, and “Time is moving so fast”…these are only a few thoughts that do not empower you. They can in fact create a sense of powerlessness.
I’ve tried many “time management” tricks in the past, none of which really worked for me as they were all about changing my behavior. In fact, that is where most “change agents” focus their attention. They give you new behaviors to perform without really addressing what is driving your behavior in the first place.
Since I started working with the root cause of behavior, my life has drastically shifted for the better. What’s the root cause of behavior, you may ask? It’s thought and feeling, which forms your belief. Fundamentally, it is energy.
The belief will then cause us to take action and create the story of our life. It is simple; yet it is easy only if you convince your self that you CAN change your life, enjoy your life even, without struggle and “hard work”. What I’m saying here is that we are making up our life experiences, and what they MEAN to us as we go.
So, one of the most empowering things that has happened to me is to become aware of certain key elements that determine the quality of our life experience and begin to consciously deal with them. Getting back to time – did you know that time is not “real”? Even Einstein talked about time and the “theory of relativity”.
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Tags: Confidence, Empowerment, Self-Estem, Stress, Time Management
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Thursday, February 18th, 2010
 Is your Mindset dialed to wealth or debt? Success, or fear of failure? It matters to your money where you keep your focus as it will determine what actions you will take unconsciously. For example, most people want to have plenty of money even if the say otherwise. How do I know? As Emerson said (paraphrased),
“I can’t hear what you say because what you do speaks so loudly”
If someone is playing the lottery or working multiple jobs, they have a value placed on obtaining more money for whatever the reason. Considering the level of consumerism and debt in this country, for many people, it is not just to survive that they are working and getting in debt.
Now here is the conflict. Whatever the dominant belief or “vibe” that you put out to the universe will be reflected back to you. The stronger vibration wins. What I mean is, once you realize that your situation and circumstances are reflecting what you feel or believe instead of what you “think” you want, you can begin to see what is really going on. It all boils down again to learning how to manage your own thoughts and feelings, which like anything else, becomes easier once you take the time to learn how to do it.
Now take for example, this issue of focus. You may be an entrepreneur or professional and you want financial success. If you keep talking about how bad things are, or regretting previous decisions, or focusing on your debt, you are giving your energy and attention to this and this will stick like glue to you until you stop it.
Or, if you think that money is bad, or rich people are evil, or that money and spirituality don’t mix and you consider yourself “spiritual”, then you will have inner turmoil over having money. Then there are beliefs such as what could have been passed down through religion or those around you.
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Tags: Business Success, Confidence, Empowerment, Mindset, Self-Esteem
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Monday, February 8th, 2010
 Mindset can make you or break you in business and in life in general. In general, I think it is safe to say that mindset rules your life. When I say mindset, I am referring to your belief (thoughts and feelings) and whether or not you are open-minded or stuck on robotic behavior.
Of course, if you keep doing things the same way, you will keep getting the same outcomes. I’m not finished reading Outliers by Malcolm Gladwell, so I want to reserved my full opinion, but so far, I’m not clear if he is saying the we are just victims of circumstances or if the Universe plays dice with the lives of people – what?
I don’t see it this way at all, and I fully believe that there are no coincidences. While being given extra advantages and being born during a certain era affords unique opportunities, whether or not we take advantages of these opportunities is a choice we make based on our mindset.
Our way of looking at life will determine what we see. In the book, Gladwell references a sociologist by the name of Robert Merton who coined a term called the “Matthew Effect” which references the book of Matthew in the Bible chapter 25 and verse 29 which is as follows:
“For everyone who has will be given more, and he will have an abundance. Whoever does not have, even what he has will be taken from him”.
When I was a kid I use to take this literally and think that somehow it was not fair or that it was saying, “the rich get richer and the poor gets poorer”. This is what I was taught. I don’t see it this way now at all.
My understanding of Merton’s take on it was that those who are already prominent in their status are more likely to get more attention than those who may be just as capable, but less recognized. These different interpretations are all examples of HOW we look at something determines our interpretation and application to our lives.
MY take on it these days is this: If you have an abundant mindset and you are not fear driven, but feel that you have plenty and expect to multiply instead of contract, you will put out to the universe a “vibe” to attract more.
If on the other hand you are afraid and worry about losing what you have all the time, you build a lack consciousness and lack begets more lack. When you read the parable to this conclusion in the Bible, you will see that the servant you had less and “was afraid” of losing his little, not only lost it, but experience torment as well (I would say anxiety and worry are forms of torment alright).
Here’s my overall point – focus on what you want, not on what you don’t want. I use to talk about what I didn’t like, didn’t have or repeat the problem on the table over and over in conversation. Then I finally realized one day that the more I talked about it, the worse I felt.
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Sunday, February 7th, 2010
 Empowerment for me is about being able to do, be or have what I consciously choose to experience in my life, including positively impacting my world. It’s about being able to create what I want instead of floundering or feeling like a hapless victim, waiting for the next wave of situations and circumstances to “make” me unhappy.
I figured out a long time ago that if I have to wait for someone else or some circumstance to make me happy, I would probably live and die first. So, I decided, to turn my focus, a long time ago, to finding the path that could take me to my destiny. I think that there is fate, and then there is destiny.
Our destiny is paved with love, joy and peace – regardless of outer circumstances. Our fate is what gets played out based on genetics, karma, childhood experiences and the hand-me-down knowledge that we use in our life without questioning it. My fate was not getting me what I wanted, in fact I did not feel very empowered to go in the directions of my dreams and certainly I did not see then how to make it a reality.
One thing I have discovered is that when there are blind spots in the way, even if someone hands you the treasure map, you still will fall into a ditch and not find the goods. This is what a WHOLE lot of people (I know from my own past personal experience as well), do every single day. Instead of using wisdom and courage to eliminate these blind spots, we somehow think that we can live on a whole new higher level and still keep our bad habits and low self-images running rampant through our minds.
I saw again a movie called “The Kid” with Bruce Willis. I first saw this movie ten years ago and I rented it to watch with my husband last week. This is a great movie to give you an example of how our wounded “inner child” can run our lives in so many ways.
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Tags: Business Success, Confidence, Empowerment, Mindset, Self-Image
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Friday, January 29th, 2010
 Emotional healing initially can sound like a “heavy” word. Why is this? After all, the day that we stop feeling emotion is the day we are no longer alive! Even when you think you are not feeling, you are.
I use to be masterful at repressing my emotion as I was terrified of feeling “bad” due to a decision I had made as a teenager. Yet, it takes a lot of energy to push back our feelings and when we do push, we just go unconscious or unaware of how we are feeling.
The danger though is that in the meantime these repressed emotions are wrecking havoc in our physical bodies (this is the main source of “dis-ease” or disease) and we are still sending the vibration of these feelings into the world around us.
People, situations and circumstances are picking up your “vibe” which is another way of essentially saying that they are picking up your feelings. Now, since science even shows that we live in a “vibratory” universe, these vibes that you send are attracting that which is resonating on the same frequency or wavelength.
It’s like tuning forks. This is why in my angry days, I attracted a lot of angry people or drama into my life. We don’t see the world the way it is, we perceive it the way we are. This will impact your career and money one way or the other.
When we have a low self-image, beat ourselves up or think that we don’t deserve success or money, we will magically find ourselves struggling in these areas. Recently I was in a group situation where there were people who were at transitions in their lives and had recently experienced job loss or had simply found the courage to go for their dreams.
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Tags: Career, Confidence, Emotional Healing, Empowerment, Self-Esteem, Success
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Confidence is required to talk publicly about money, especially when you come from a place of abundance. Since there is so much scarcity thinking around money, buttons are highly likely to be pushed.
