Archive for the ‘Empowerment’ Category
Sunday, February 7th, 2010
 Empowerment for me is about being able to do, be or have what I consciously choose to experience in my life, including positively impacting my world. It’s about being able to create what I want instead of floundering or feeling like a hapless victim, waiting for the next wave of situations and circumstances to “make” me unhappy.
I figured out a long time ago that if I have to wait for someone else or some circumstance to make me happy, I would probably live and die first. So, I decided, to turn my focus, a long time ago, to finding the path that could take me to my destiny. I think that there is fate, and then there is destiny.
Our destiny is paved with love, joy and peace – regardless of outer circumstances. Our fate is what gets played out based on genetics, karma, childhood experiences and the hand-me-down knowledge that we use in our life without questioning it. My fate was not getting me what I wanted, in fact I did not feel very empowered to go in the directions of my dreams and certainly I did not see then how to make it a reality.
One thing I have discovered is that when there are blind spots in the way, even if someone hands you the treasure map, you still will fall into a ditch and not find the goods. This is what a WHOLE lot of people (I know from my own past personal experience as well), do every single day. Instead of using wisdom and courage to eliminate these blind spots, we somehow think that we can live on a whole new higher level and still keep our bad habits and low self-images running rampant through our minds.
I saw again a movie called “The Kid” with Bruce Willis. I first saw this movie ten years ago and I rented it to watch with my husband last week. This is a great movie to give you an example of how our wounded “inner child” can run our lives in so many ways.
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Wednesday, February 3rd, 2010
 Fear and its various forms are such a ubiquitous emotions in the human drama. I come from a place of living the fear driven life. I can therefore speak with authority based on my life experience.
Now of course, this is my perspective and this is not a matter of “right or wrong”, it’s just a perspective. However, since the “proof is in the pudding”, for me, as long as I get results, it does not matter if the experience is shared by others or not, but what I do know is, if the actions are based in principles, the results are reproducible.
What’s cool about brain science is that it also helps to substantiate these principles. For example, other than the fear that is used to protect us from physical harm, experiencing chronic psychological fear is not only a threat to your health, relationships and finances, it can keep you playing small and limited your whole life.
I refer to this kind of fear as Fictitious Evidence Affecting Reality. In other words, we are the authors of our own fear-based stories and when we learn how to separate our True Self from the Mental Me, the story of who we think we are, we can once again begin to see life as an exciting adventure instead of another day of struggle, stress and “survival of the fittest”.
It’s all about perception. It was Albert Einstein who said:
“Reality is an illusion; albeit a very persistent one”
Reality is relative. Science shows that your outer world and experience is truly a reflection of how you think and feel.
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Wednesday, January 20th, 2010
 Empowerment and remaining open-minded are connected. There is a lot of cutting-edge information out here that can be very useful for your life for example, understanding the role that you are playing in creating your own life experiences.
Now because there is subjectivity involved whenever we are dealing with emotions and perception, which contribute to your level of consciousness (let’s just call it “awareness”), it is difficult to quantify it and plug it into a formula.
You cannot box it in and this is why many scientists would rather to totally avoid conversations around the “deeper” things of life. Take emotions, this is a terrifying area for many people and there are several reasons for this.
Also, when it comes to “paranormal” events, such as high levels of intuition, for example “entangled minds” or premonitions, science overall tries to write it off as “crazy” or “unscientific”. To me this is utter nonsense.
The issue is, not that it is inherently “unscientific”. The problem is the way “scientific” is defined in the first place. Herein lies the limitation of science which often resembles “fundamentalist” religion. If you ask a question that they don’t want to deal with or can’t plug into a math formula, they belittle the experience of others and call it invalid.
Just because something cannot be reproduced over and over with predictable results, does not make it an “invalid” experience for the person asking the question or relaying their experience. The reason these types of energetic experiences are so difficult to measure is that we are all unique and our “realities” are reflected in this uniqueness.
When awareness gets involved (you’d better believe emotions/feelings play a role here), things become tricky. My life experience will be different than yours. It is empowering to be able to embrace your own conclusion in the face of what others may call “unscientific” just because they do not understand it or have a different mindset.
If there were not fear involved or if it was not a matter of staying within one’s comfort zone, why not try to understand a differing viewpoint? History has shown that often times, it is a matter of ignorance or lack of technology that prevents us from being able to find the answer at the time.
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Tags: Confidence, Empowerment, Law of Attraction, Self-Esteem, Self-Mastery
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Friday, January 8th, 2010
 Empowerment is the buzz world for our day. “Oh yeah?” you may say. “How so? It looks like the world may be going to hell in a hand basket”. (I do occasionally hear these kinds of remarks).
I personally am so excited and hopeful that we are at a time of great awakening. We are awakening from the nightmare that we have created by being asleep to our Core, Who we really are.
There is the “Mental Me”, then there is the “Magnificent Me” (distinct difference so don’t let the ego trip you up here). Many people look at the current generation of young people and think that they are a “lost generation”.
Actually, each generation tends to say this about the prior generation to a degree anyway. The distinction though is that this generation does have access to a lot of information and technology that prior generations did not have.
There is much potential good to be had from this technology, yet of course, there is a lot of potential for destruction as well. I have put my faith on the side of the good, the Light, as while it is true that there is a dark side to humanity, there is also the presence of even greater Light – once you see and perceive it from within.
There are many out here who want to “save” this so called “lost generation”. Yes, we definitely need to do what we can to inspire and help others. This of course will naturally flow out of our own inner healing.
If we take care of our own backyard and pull up our own weeds, we can have better soil to grow beauty in the garden of our own minds. Then of course we will be in a better position to help others as they tend to their own garden. Hence the answer is not in playing the role of “rescuer”.
“Physician, heal thyself” and then you can help others. Another thing I have noticed about this “lost generation” is there is also a rising up of a group that is outright visionary, courageous and powerful.
This group can tell the “older generation” a thing or two, that’s for sure. So before we start judging the youngsters to be so messed up and lost, maybe we should change our focus to adjust to notice those forces that are also rising up on the side of the Light of humanity.
Here is a very powerful video I came across on YouTube that is produced by someone from this “lost generation”, hence the video is also called, “The Lost Generation”.
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Monday, January 4th, 2010
 Empowerment is about being able to go from where you are to where you want to be and to live from a place of abundance. Abundance for me refers to health, wealth and relationships.
We are living through turbulent and changing times, so coming from a place of empowerment is to be able to navigate change with awareness and conscious choice, instead of feeling like a victim. I went to see two movies last week that had a lot of current science, aspects of the mystical or spiritual and cultural/economic messages.
Avatar I thought was so good, I’m planning on seeing it again on IMAX with 3-D. What was so great about blue people and an outer space fiction movie? How does this relate to everyday life? I can’t cover everything, but here are the highlights.
Quantum physics has shown that everything is energy. Yes everything. Now there is debate over how our consciousness interacts with this energy, or for that matter, what consciousness is in the first place.
I don’t want to get too specific with the details of the movie, as I don’t want to spoil it for people. In the movie, there is reference to the connection of all of life, how we are one with nature and all of life, yet we are able to function as individuals. It also referred to how science, when it only comes from a place of intellect and holds a mechanistic viewpoint of life, just how fear-based and cruel it can be.
Then there were also spiritual references to the energy field, which some quantum physicists call the “Divine Matrix”. This is the energy that permeates all of life. Then there was Sherlock Holmes and his ability to visualize and “see” future events. There is science that documents all types of “paranormal” phenomenon.
Folks, this is not sci-fi or spooky.
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Tags: Confidence, Empowerment, Self-Esteem, Self-Mastery, Spirituality
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Thursday, December 10th, 2009
 Transformation literally means to rise above form, or transcend “form”. Form is what you are seeing in your world at the moment. And here is what I’ve discovered: what I see was formed by my perceptions. How I see life ultimately determines my experience of life.
My perceptual system is unique to me in many ways. My thoughts, emotions and feelings create the vision and energy that forms how I experience life. I know that most people still believe that we are hapless victims of circumstances. I used to.
It has been so freeing to realize that this is just not the case. While I cannot control everything in my world, I can control how I react to a great degree. Here’s an as yet little known point that is powerful – how aware are you that the physical world starts within the quantum field of all that is?
In practical terms, everything is energy and then the invisible, tiny particles of waves and particles “gel” into form according to our consciousness. Or, another way to look at it is what we expect to see because of how we perceive life, repeatedly shows up in our experience. It becomes a “self-fulfilling prophecy. While science shows there is no such thing as empty space and that the “observer” affects the movement of the quantum field, there is much controversy over “what is consciousness”?
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Friday, November 27th, 2009
 Empowerment and confidence, I have come to realize is a journey and one that requires that we bring along with us the same three friends that Dorothy from the Wizard of Oz discovered on her journey down the yellow brick road.
I was in a video store today and I had a great “aha” moment that inspired me to write this post. While standing in line I saw a large poster of the Wizard of Oz and the four main characters walking arm-in-arm down the yellow brick road.
Who are these three friends? Think for a moment- who where the three characters that Dorothy met one her path that helped her survive and complete her journey to uncovering her own inner power? Yes, it was the lion (needed courage), the tin man (needed a heart) and the scarecrow (needed a brain).
Recall that when she met them, they were (or thought that they were), missing these traits. By the end of her journey, they had them – and Dorothy realizes by the end of the movie, that that which she was searching for, was “here all along”. Here’s the lesson.
As a society, we have been taught in early childhood, (interesting that this is an early childhood favorite movie) that we need to control and repress our feelings and emotions. In fact we often feel ashamed of having “bad” feelings as an adult and we tend to avoid this pain at all costs!
Yet, if we were taught how to manage our feelings without having guilt and shamed heaped upon us in various ways, we could accept feelings without it turning into explosive drama. We could start out earlier in life befriending feelings and emotions and learning how to integrate this part of our psyche in a healthy manner.
If we did, they would not block up our energy flow and build up pain that causes dis-ease and dysfunction. The fact is, most of us have become so fearful (no lion, no courage) of pain, shame and guilt around the stories that our “autobiographical memory” ego storyteller has created early in life, that we cannot even begin to accept the friend of “heart” (tin man) to begin the journey.
We have no courage and we refuse to look at the heart. We tend to travel the road of life only with the scarecrow (brain, intellect) and wonder why we feel incomplete? We often feel that something is missing. Well, it is! We become numb after years of rejecting the other part of ourselves – heart, or feeling nature!
I have come to realize from living a blocked emotional life for so many years, that once I found courage on my journey, that I was able to accept the companion of feelings/heart, along with my brain/intellect.
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Tuesday, November 10th, 2009
 It feels empowering to complete a project that requires expansion into new territories. Anything that gets you out of your comfort zone can wake you up to a whole new world.
I am in the process now of finishing up the publication process of my first book. I’ve always known since childhood that I would someday become an “official” author by having books published and even then my intention was that I would have something of importance to connect with my readers on, at a meaningful, empowering level.
I used to pretend that I had books published by making up fiction stories in spiral bound little notebooks. Little did I realize as a young child, that when it comes to writing on topics that empower, it is very common to have to have had life experiences that required me to personally experience the difference between feeling confident and empowered or feeling like a victim, or having a low sense of self-esteem.
As I look back now at my journey of coming through the fires of life and overcoming the challenges, I now see why there can be a time and season for everything under the sun. I realize that it is not what happens to one in life that determines the outcome of their story, but how one responds to life’s challenges that makes the difference.
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Friday, October 30th, 2009
 I find it challenging at times to go to the grocery store and hear nothing but disease messages like “did you get your flu shot”? It’s “cold and flu season again” (no such thing, literally). Or how about “you have a ____% chance of dying of breast cancer (yet statistically you have a much greater likelihood of never getting the disease in the first place, what about this?)
Do you notice that fear, fear, fear, is blasting all too often over the airways? Not to put my head in the sand, but walking about worrying about dying is no way to live.
Looking for your personal power?… here’s a hint – it’s an inside job!
“We all sit around in a circle and suppose while the secret sits in the the center and knows” ~ Robert Frost
Since I stopped believing in a “cold and flu” season I rarely “catch” one. If I’m stressed or tired and then feel symptoms coming on, virtually always, if I get a good nights sleep, meditate and relax, by the next day they are gone. Do not underestimate the power of belief. Fear is simply faith in what you do not want, generally speaking. I’m focusing my attention on peace as what you focus on expands. There are several paths that lead to peace, but ultimately, you can only truly find it from the inside out. Since the world can’t give it, the world can’t take it away.
Here are a few tips that can be useful:
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Tuesday, October 13th, 2009
 Self-mastery and empowerment is more than a “nice idea”. It can become as real as you are willing to make it happen for yourself. It is not about being lucky, and the journey to empowerment is a conscious choice, it will not just happen.
We all start our early life feeling like a victim or possessing “victim consciousness”. It seems that it is just a part of the human experience, and while it is possible that there are one or two exceptions out there, the rule is out the gate we have to develop our sense of personal power.
For the most part, most people have accepted the notion that their life is out of their control. I believe that this attitude is starting to shift. Perhaps it is out of necessity or for some out of desperation, but since we are living in a time of great turmoil and change, it has become evident that that job you are depending on, or that support you thought would always be there, can simply vanish overnight.
The truth is, this has always been the case. It is an illusion to think that we can control things outside of ourselves. The closest that we will ever come to controlling anything will be the ability to control our own mind, our choice of thoughts and what we will believe. The missing ingredient though is awareness.
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Empowerment for me is about being able to do, be or have what I consciously choose to experience in my life, including positively impacting my world. It’s about being able to create what I want instead of floundering or feeling like a hapless victim, waiting for the next wave of situations and circumstances to “make” me unhappy.
