February 8th, 2010
 Mindset can make you or break you in business and in life in general. In general, I think it is safe to say that mindset rules your life. When I say mindset, I am referring to your belief (thoughts and feelings) and whether or not you are open-minded or stuck on robotic behavior.
Of course, if you keep doing things the same way, you will keep getting the same outcomes. I’m not finished reading Outliers by Malcolm Gladwell, so I want to reserved my full opinion, but so far, I’m not clear if he is saying the we are just victims of circumstances or if the Universe plays dice with the lives of people – what?
I don’t see it this way at all, and I fully believe that there are no coincidences. While being given extra advantages and being born during a certain era affords unique opportunities, whether or not we take advantages of these opportunities is a choice we make based on our mindset.
Our way of looking at life will determine what we see. In the book, Gladwell references a sociologist by the name of Robert Merton who coined a term called the “Matthew Effect” which references the book of Matthew in the Bible chapter 25 and verse 29 which is as follows:
“For everyone who has will be given more, and he will have an abundance. Whoever does not have, even what he has will be taken from him”.
When I was a kid I use to take this literally and think that somehow it was not fair or that it was saying, “the rich get richer and the poor gets poorer”. This is what I was taught. I don’t see it this way now at all.
My understanding of Merton’s take on it was that those who are already prominent in their status are more likely to get more attention than those who may be just as capable, but less recognized. These different interpretations are all examples of HOW we look at something determines our interpretation and application to our lives.
MY take on it these days is this: If you have an abundant mindset and you are not fear driven, but feel that you have plenty and expect to multiply instead of contract, you will put out to the universe a “vibe” to attract more.
If on the other hand you are afraid and worry about losing what you have all the time, you build a lack consciousness and lack begets more lack. When you read the parable to this conclusion in the Bible, you will see that the servant you had less and “was afraid” of losing his little, not only lost it, but experience torment as well (I would say anxiety and worry are forms of torment alright).
Here’s my overall point – focus on what you want, not on what you don’t want. I use to talk about what I didn’t like, didn’t have or repeat the problem on the table over and over in conversation. Then I finally realized one day that the more I talked about it, the worse I felt.
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Tags: Confidence, Empoerment, Happiness, Mindset
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February 7th, 2010
 Empowerment for me is about being able to do, be or have what I consciously choose to experience in my life, including positively impacting my world. It’s about being able to create what I want instead of floundering or feeling like a hapless victim, waiting for the next wave of situations and circumstances to “make” me unhappy.
I figured out a long time ago that if I have to wait for someone else or some circumstance to make me happy, I would probably live and die first. So, I decided, to turn my focus, a long time ago, to finding the path that could take me to my destiny. I think that there is fate, and then there is destiny.
Our destiny is paved with love, joy and peace – regardless of outer circumstances. Our fate is what gets played out based on genetics, karma, childhood experiences and the hand-me-down knowledge that we use in our life without questioning it. My fate was not getting me what I wanted, in fact I did not feel very empowered to go in the directions of my dreams and certainly I did not see then how to make it a reality.
One thing I have discovered is that when there are blind spots in the way, even if someone hands you the treasure map, you still will fall into a ditch and not find the goods. This is what a WHOLE lot of people (I know from my own past personal experience as well), do every single day. Instead of using wisdom and courage to eliminate these blind spots, we somehow think that we can live on a whole new higher level and still keep our bad habits and low self-images running rampant through our minds.
I saw again a movie called “The Kid” with Bruce Willis. I first saw this movie ten years ago and I rented it to watch with my husband last week. This is a great movie to give you an example of how our wounded “inner child” can run our lives in so many ways.
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Tags: Business Success, Confidence, Empowerment, Mindset, Self-Image
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February 3rd, 2010
 Fear and its various forms are such a ubiquitous emotions in the human drama. I come from a place of living the fear driven life. I can therefore speak with authority based on my life experience.
Now of course, this is my perspective and this is not a matter of “right or wrong”, it’s just a perspective. However, since the “proof is in the pudding”, for me, as long as I get results, it does not matter if the experience is shared by others or not, but what I do know is, if the actions are based in principles, the results are reproducible.
What’s cool about brain science is that it also helps to substantiate these principles. For example, other than the fear that is used to protect us from physical harm, experiencing chronic psychological fear is not only a threat to your health, relationships and finances, it can keep you playing small and limited your whole life.
I refer to this kind of fear as Fictitious Evidence Affecting Reality. In other words, we are the authors of our own fear-based stories and when we learn how to separate our True Self from the Mental Me, the story of who we think we are, we can once again begin to see life as an exciting adventure instead of another day of struggle, stress and “survival of the fittest”.
It’s all about perception. It was Albert Einstein who said:
“Reality is an illusion; albeit a very persistent one”
Reality is relative. Science shows that your outer world and experience is truly a reflection of how you think and feel.
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Tags: Career Transition, Confidence Happiness, Empowerment, Self-Esteem
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February 1st, 2010
 Law of Attraction is always at work whether you realize it or not. The question is, are you using it consciously or unconsciously? Most people do not realize that the Law of Attraction is also known as the Law of Vibration. This is because vibrational patterns of energy are what the Universe is based upon within the creative process – like attracts like.
The frequency that you resonate via your feeling/emotional nature is what the Universe matches back to you. Emotional magnetic energy is much greater than thought alone. In fact, it has been measured to be as much as 5,000 times greater (visit The HeartMath Institute for more info).
You initiate what you want with a thought, but the Law of Attraction process works as the thought combines with the feeling tone to set the pattern that you are putting out as your “vibe”. Ever thought that you did or did not like the “vibe” in a room? You were just sensing the energy pattern of the room.
Here’s the main point: the vibration or feeling that is your dominant pattern is what the universe is mirroring back to you. So, if you think or say you want health, wealth and happy relationships, but you walk around all day feeling negative, whining, complaining and judging everything and everyone in sight, don’t be surprised if the good things in life continue to elude you.
You get what you feel, all day long! Once you think on things long enough and with enough repetition or emotional connection, it becomes a belief. Belief is actually wired into your body’s physiology as memory and is stored at a cellular level (and in your bio-energy field).
Just because you believe something does not mean it is the ultimate “Truth”. No, it’s just true for you! Here are 7 preliminary steps you can take to begin to shift your negative thinking patterns:
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Tags: Career Transition, Confidence, Emotional Healing, Empowerment, Law of Attraction
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January 31st, 2010
 Stress is epidemic these days. What is stress? First let me say that stress in general is an emotional “dis-ease”. You are not at ease when you feel stressed out and the reason is based in feelings of overwhelm.
When one is overwhelmed, she or he is not feeling very empowered. Feeling stress then is to feel disempowered. Now this is certainly not something that is in our best interest. When you are stressed, you are feeling threatened and this is a mind/brain response whether the perceived threat is real, meaning physical threat or psychological.
If your life is in danger, the stress response can help you to run faster, fight stronger or, for better or for worse – freeze. Other than physical escape, the response can interfere with your performance.
If you were meeting a deadline, enthusiasm or excitement would serve you better than getting yourself all worked up about last minute preparedness. The main thing to consider about stress is to understand that it is also very dangerous to your health.
Sure, overwhelm is unpleasant, but that is the least of your concern when it comes to stress. Consider the following facts about stress:
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Tags: Confidence, Empowerment, Health, Self-Mastery, Stess
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January 29th, 2010
 Emotional healing initially can sound like a “heavy” word. Why is this? After all, the day that we stop feeling emotion is the day we are no longer alive! Even when you think you are not feeling, you are.
I use to be masterful at repressing my emotion as I was terrified of feeling “bad” due to a decision I had made as a teenager. Yet, it takes a lot of energy to push back our feelings and when we do push, we just go unconscious or unaware of how we are feeling.
The danger though is that in the meantime these repressed emotions are wrecking havoc in our physical bodies (this is the main source of “dis-ease” or disease) and we are still sending the vibration of these feelings into the world around us.
People, situations and circumstances are picking up your “vibe” which is another way of essentially saying that they are picking up your feelings. Now, since science even shows that we live in a “vibratory” universe, these vibes that you send are attracting that which is resonating on the same frequency or wavelength.
It’s like tuning forks. This is why in my angry days, I attracted a lot of angry people or drama into my life. We don’t see the world the way it is, we perceive it the way we are. This will impact your career and money one way or the other.
When we have a low self-image, beat ourselves up or think that we don’t deserve success or money, we will magically find ourselves struggling in these areas. Recently I was in a group situation where there were people who were at transitions in their lives and had recently experienced job loss or had simply found the courage to go for their dreams.
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Tags: Career, Confidence, Emotional Healing, Empowerment, Self-Esteem, Success
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January 26th, 2010
 The Law of Attraction essentially is about “like attracts like”. We live in a vibratory universe, and since everything is energy, (this IS science and not woo-woo by the way), it makes sense to me that if you want to make a change in your life, you start with the basics.
The basic building block of our lives is energy. Our thoughts, feelings and emotion are composed of energy. This electromagnetic energy, which is the “stuff” that wires our circuits in our nervous system, ultimately leads to the actions that our body takes or what we create from our imaginative minds.
We’ve had it backwards in so many ways. One way is the idea of “mind over matter” which is like trying to control or change a building after it is built. It is often even the idea that we can “pretend” we don’t see something and that somehow our ignoring it will make it disappear.
It’s the old affirmations and positive self-talk without the energy, the power of belief to make it happen. Well, Law of Attraction actually works in a conscious manner when you start to realize that what you think and FEEL about, you bring about.
The Law of Attraction is working at all times. It’s just that most people are so into blaming and feeling like a victim that they don’t realize that the negative feelings of judgment, self-rejection and lack thinking keeps showing up as the “matters” of their life and they are co-creating the chaos!
Then, once it shows up, they try to “mind over matter it” which is why life feels like so much hard work and struggle. It keeps you feeling off balance as you try to walk the tightrope of your life. I use to do this for sure.
Thank goodness I finally woke up from the nightmare.
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Tags: Confidence, Emotional Healing, Empowerment, Law of Attraction, Self-Esteem
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January 20th, 2010
 Empowerment and remaining open-minded are connected. There is a lot of cutting-edge information out here that can be very useful for your life for example, understanding the role that you are playing in creating your own life experiences.
Now because there is subjectivity involved whenever we are dealing with emotions and perception, which contribute to your level of consciousness (let’s just call it “awareness”), it is difficult to quantify it and plug it into a formula.
You cannot box it in and this is why many scientists would rather to totally avoid conversations around the “deeper” things of life. Take emotions, this is a terrifying area for many people and there are several reasons for this.
Also, when it comes to “paranormal” events, such as high levels of intuition, for example “entangled minds” or premonitions, science overall tries to write it off as “crazy” or “unscientific”. To me this is utter nonsense.
The issue is, not that it is inherently “unscientific”. The problem is the way “scientific” is defined in the first place. Herein lies the limitation of science which often resembles “fundamentalist” religion. If you ask a question that they don’t want to deal with or can’t plug into a math formula, they belittle the experience of others and call it invalid.
Just because something cannot be reproduced over and over with predictable results, does not make it an “invalid” experience for the person asking the question or relaying their experience. The reason these types of energetic experiences are so difficult to measure is that we are all unique and our “realities” are reflected in this uniqueness.
When awareness gets involved (you’d better believe emotions/feelings play a role here), things become tricky. My life experience will be different than yours. It is empowering to be able to embrace your own conclusion in the face of what others may call “unscientific” just because they do not understand it or have a different mindset.
If there were not fear involved or if it was not a matter of staying within one’s comfort zone, why not try to understand a differing viewpoint? History has shown that often times, it is a matter of ignorance or lack of technology that prevents us from being able to find the answer at the time.
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Tags: Confidence, Empowerment, Law of Attraction, Self-Esteem, Self-Mastery
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January 18th, 2010
 Self-esteem, self-image is foundational to your quality of life. We cannot rise above, or at least not stay above whatever is our inner perception regarding our worth.
Just look at what happened to Tiger Woods. The sad thing is, we are already good enough, just because we exist! We are the one who continue to allow the thinking into our lives that something “out there” is our salvation. That inner peace is to be had from something outside of who we are.
Granted, the emotional wiring that usually gets screwed up early in life play a significant role, but I’m here to tell you that we can rewire ourselves once we make the intentional commitment to do so.
And, the good news is, it is not as difficult as you think. I’ve made it my business to find tools and processes to change my inner turmoil and find the inner power and peace to consciously design my life by choice.
And it is working.
I also believe that the changes that we feel “in the air” around us is helping to assist this process by the rapid insights that are happening in the progressive arenas of science and spirituality. The spirituality piece is actually ancient.
We are just waking up again to remember. Now, how does this apply to everyday practical life? Let’s look at it from a business point of view.
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Tags: Confidence, Confience, Emotional Healing, Empowerment, Happiness, Self-Esteem
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January 16th, 2010
 Emotional healing is an idea whose time has come. It is often ignored and swept under a rug, the old “elephant in the room” that people pretend that they don’t see. This is truly unfortunate as emotions are the fuel that runs the engine of our life.
Our intellect, logic and actions cannot rise above the quality of our perceptions, and emotions have more impact on our perception than what we think. This is also one reason why change can be so difficult for people.
We often think we want to change but because of our fear of feeling “bad” emotions, when uncomfortable feelings show up, we distract ourselves with all manner of drama, from workaholism to, well, all manner of additions and procrastination. And it’s not just our self-esteem and confidence on the table.
85% of all disease is stress-related, and stress is an emotional disease. Note the word “dis-ease”, or not at ease. The electrical energy of emotion is 60 times greater than thought and the magnetic energy is 5,000 times greater that thought.
In other words, when you feel good, you are a powerful attractor of that which resonates with the vibration of that feeling and when you feel “bad” you are going be on the “vibe” of these kinds of experiences. Science shows we live in a vibratory universe and like attracts like.
I use to be terrified of feeling pain, and there is a reason for this that often links back to early childhood, though not always. The long/short of it is, I discovered that once I stopped seeing feelings as something to be avoided, I was able to stop judging them and not dealing with my life.
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Tags: Emotional Healing, Emotional Pain, Empowerment, Happiness, Self-Esteem, Stress
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Mindset can make you or break you in business and in life in general. In general, I think it is safe to say that mindset rules your life. When I say mindset, I am referring to your belief (thoughts and feelings) and whether or not you are open-minded or stuck on robotic behavior.
