Love is not often thought of as power, especially in business. Usually there is a conversation about power and then there’s love. After listening to a very impactful video on RSA by Adam Kahane, Power and Love, I had an insight. In this video, once again there was power and then there was love. A couple of days before viewing this video I had a discussion with a Twitter friend on power versus force, the title of a book by Dr. David Hawkins. I have been making a distinction between power and force, as if love is power and that other power was really force.
After watching this video, I would now say this !that which we call power should really be preceded with the word, will. It’s really will power, for it is certainly not the only power – love is a power also. Will power plays an important role in self-determination and human potential, yet, as the video points out, it can become destructive when it is not integrated with the power of love.
In the video he defines power as the drive of everything to realize itself – growth/self determination. He then defines love as the drive toward the unity of the separated – the underlying unity is fractured and love seeks to unite. I would also argue that love also is a part of the drive of everything to realize itself in that love is also involved in the begetting of life and growth.
There is also another point I would add. Love is power. There’s not power and then there’s love.
Self-determination requires will power. Maintaining unification and a life supporting system (integrity, wholeness) requires, love power. In fact, when love power takes hold, it can be a force that is powerful beyond measure. When it is balanced with will power it can be more powerful than will power alone, once this integrative will/love power takes hold. For the remainder of this post, I will refer to power as (will) power in some sentences as love is also a power as well.
He goes on to explain in the video how (will) power and love can both be degenerative or generative when lived to the extreme pole, one without the other. He used the example of the traditional husband and wife relationship: